Leadership Is About Connection (not control)

Many of us grew up believing that leadership meant having all the answers, staying in charge, and keeping everything under control. But healthy leadership isn’t about control, it is about connection.

As Simon Sinek puts it, “Leadership is not about being in charge. It’s about taking care of those in your charge.”

Control and connection are two different leadership postures:

• Control says: “I will lead by having power over people.”

• Connection says: “I will lead by empowering people.”

Both can get results, but the long-term outcomes are worlds apart. When you lead with connection, you are developing more leaders and that will impact the world in ways you could never even imagine.

When you lead through connection, you:

• Know people as individuals, not just by their roles

• Draw out strengths and invite contribution

• Listen before directing

• Create space for ownership and growth

This approach takes more time and intentionality. It builds something control never can: trust, confidence, and a culture of empowered people.

If you feel drawn to lead through relationship rather than authority, do not mistake that for weakness. It is one of the strongest ways to lead. Connection changes people, and it leaves an impact that lasts far beyond your role.

With you in the journey,
Justine

Reflection:

When have you experienced leadership that made you feel seen, safe, and empowered?