Leading From Alongside (not out in front)

Leadership has long been defined as being out in front. The cultural norm has leaders setting direction, making decisions, and directing their followers.

That kind of leadership is great for rallying a group together, but we’re not only a group. We are all individuals. And individuals need leaders who will see and develop them personally.

I call this side-by-side leadership.

Side-by-side leadership is walking alongside people and supporting them while they become who they’re meant to be.

It is about connection over control, presence over position, and relationships over recognition.

This kind of leadership shows up over coffee, during the monotony of a work project, in text messages, and in the simple moments of daily life.

It does not require a title or a platform. It asks only this: notice who you are side-by-side with, and be intentional.

Side-by-side leaders are thoughtful about how they show up with others.

It is in being curious and listening.
It is in noticing strengths and naming potential.
It is in speaking hope and encouragement.
It is about helping people to see their value and have the courage to bring their unique contribution to the world.

Side-by-side leadership seeks to witness, confirm and nurture what is already within people. It cultivates individuals, one relationship at a time.

And the beauty of this leadership approach is the relationship is two-way. It is not about one person having more wisdom, more strength or more power than the other. The nurturing encouragement flows both ways. It creates a relational culture. Side-by-side leadership is contagious.

Becoming a side-by-side leader does not require training, certification or permission. It simply begins with how you see and treat the people around you. It is simply taking the opportunity and responsibility to invest in others.

You are probably already leading this way. You just didn’t realise it.

Take a moment to name your side-by-side leadership opportunities. Consider your spheres of relationship and move forward with intention.

Imagine a world where every person is nurtured and strengthened by someone walking beside them. No title required. No stage needed. Just the quiet decision to show up with presence and care.

Imagine the difference you could make.
Why not start right now?

With you in the journey,
Justine

Reflection:

Where are you already walking alongside someone? What’s one small, intentional way you can keep showing up?